For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11
Finding Fulfillment in Christ
We may find ourselves feeling incomplete without a relationship, but it is essential to remember that our true fulfillment comes from our relationship with Christ. When we seek Him first, we discover that our worth is not tied to having a boyfriend or a romantic partner. Jesus assures us that He loves us deeply and uniquely, and through Him, we gain complete satisfaction. In Christ, we are whole, and we learn the importance of being content in our singlehood while we let Him guide our paths in life.
Philippians 4:19
And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:19
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! – 2 Corinthians 5:17
Psalm 107:9
For he satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things. – Psalm 107:9
1 John 4:10
This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. – 1 John 4:10
Romans 8:38-39
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. – Romans 8:38-39
Embracing Singleness
Embracing singleness can be a beautiful journey where we can grow and flourish in our faith. It allows us time for self-reflection and personal growth, deepening our understanding of God’s will for our lives. During this period, we can focus on our passions, hobbies, and friendships that enrich our lives. We can fully dedicate ourselves to serving others, discovering the joy that comes when we help those around us. When we make the most of our single years, we reflect God’s love, even without a romantic partner.
1 Corinthians 7:32-34
I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided. – 1 Corinthians 7:32-34
Isaiah 54:5
For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. – Isaiah 54:5
Song of Solomon 2:10
My beloved spoke and said to me, “Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, come with me.” – Song of Solomon 2:10
Psalm 34:18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. – Psalm 34:18
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. – Proverbs 18:22
The Value of Patience
In this fast-paced world, we may feel pressured to find a boyfriend, but patience is vital in our walk with God. He has perfect timing for every aspect of our lives, including relationships. Trusting His plan means waiting for His best in our dating life and not rushing into a relationship that may not be right for us. Through patience, we learn to rely on God and His promises, which assures us that we are in His care no matter our relationship status. God is preparing us and our future partners, and we can find comfort in that.
Isaiah 40:31
But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. – Isaiah 40:31
Psalm 27:14
Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. – Psalm 27:14
James 1:4
Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. – James 1:4
Romans 12:12
Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. – Romans 12:12
Ecclesiastes 3:11
He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. – Ecclesiastes 3:11
Trusting God’s Plan
Trusting God and His beautiful plan for our lives brings comfort and peace. He knows the desires of our hearts and works things out for our good. By fully relying on Him regarding our relationship status, we can experience a deeper connection with God. We should focus on our spiritual growth and allow God to implement His perfect plan for our relationships. When we seek His will, we find that He guides us unexpectedly, often leading us to the right partner in His perfect timing, even if it requires waiting.
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. – Proverbs 3:5-6
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11
Psalm 37:4
Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. – Psalm 37:4
1 Peter 5:7
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. – 1 Peter 5:7
Growing in Faith
During our single season, where we may feel the void of not having a boyfriend, we can grow tremendously in our faith. This is a time to deepen our relationship with God through prayer, reading His Word, and being involved in our community. We can cultivate a life where we are not defined by our single status but where we shine brightly for others to see. As we mature spiritually, we become who God intended us to be, allowing His love to overflow through us, which is a blessing in itself.
2 Timothy 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. – 2 Timothy 1:7
Colossians 3:2
Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. – Colossians 3:2
Ephesians 3:20
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us. – Ephesians 3:20
Titus 2:7-8
In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us. – Titus 2:7-8
Hebrews 10:24-25
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. – Hebrews 10:24-25
Final Thoughts
Being single can sometimes feel like a burden, but it is a season that offers us unique opportunities to grow and deepen our relationship with God. The Bible reminds us that we are made whole in Christ, not through a boyfriend or partner. While we may desire romantic love, God has beautiful plans for us and teaches us the importance of patience. Embracing this time of singleness allows us to flourish in our faith and serve those around us.
As we focus on growing in our relationship with God, trusting His plan, and finding contentment in our circumstances, we realize that love is present in many forms beyond romantic relationships. So let’s allow ourselves to be fully present during this time, lean into the joy of our spiritual journey, and seek the fulfillment that comes from God alone. For those looking ahead, read about future wives and the beauty of our future relationships.
As we continue to grow, remember that God is always at work in our lives, helping us see how beautiful our journey can be, even without a boyfriend.