“But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.” – James 1:5
Communication in Marriage
In our marriages, clear and open communication is essential for making decisions together. We should strive to share our thoughts, feelings, and concerns, creating a safe space for each other. By doing so, we can be better equipped to make informed choices that reflect our shared values and priorities. Effective communication allows us to understand each other deeply and ensures that both partners feel heard and respected. This practice is not only important for decision-making but also strengthens the bond we share with our spouse.
Proverbs 15:1
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1
Colossians 3:19
“Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” – Colossians 3:19
Ephesians 4:29
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.” – Ephesians 4:29
1 Peter 3:7
“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect.” – 1 Peter 3:7
James 1:19
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19
Seeking God’s Guidance
We can find peace in decision-making when we seek God’s guidance. In prayer, we have the opportunity to lay our concerns and choices before Him, asking for clarity and wisdom. When we align our decisions with His will, we are reminded that we are not alone in our marriage. God desires to be involved, helping us navigate challenges and guide our choices to reflect His love and purpose. When we rely on Him, we can trust that our decisions will be blessed according to His plans for us.
Proverbs 3:5-6
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6
Psalm 37:5
“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this.” – Psalm 37:5
Isaiah 30:21
“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’” – Isaiah 30:21
Jeremiah 29:11
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
Matthew 7:7
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” – Matthew 7:7
Forgiveness in Decision Making
In every marriage, mistakes happen. We may face decisions that hurt or disappoint each other. It’s essential to cultivate a spirit of forgiveness so that we can move forward together. Holding onto grudges can cloud our judgment and hinder our ability to make wise choices. By forgiving one another, we create an atmosphere of love and grace, which is vital for making decisions that reflect our commitment to each other and our marriage. Remember, forgiveness is not just a one-time act but a continual choice we make in our relationship.
Ephesians 4:32
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
Colossians 3:13
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” – Colossians 3:13
Matthew 6:14-15
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” – Matthew 6:14-15
Mark 11:25
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” – Mark 11:25
Luke 6:37
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” – Luke 6:37
Staying United as a Team
One of the keys to making decisions in marriage is working together as a unified team. We should approach challenges and decisions with the mindset that we are in this together. By making choices mutually, we reinforce our partnership and strengthen our bond. Supporting and encouraging each other through every step reminds us that we are allies in this journey. When we stand together, we show that our marriage is built on love, trust, and cooperation, which makes decision-making a blessing rather than a burden.
Philippians 2:2
“Then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind.” – Philippians 2:2
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
1 Corinthians 1:10
“I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and that there be no divisions among you.” – 1 Corinthians 1:10
Romans 12:4-5
“For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.” – Romans 12:4-5
Galatians 6:2
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” – Galatians 6:2
Prioritizing Love in Decision Making
In our marriage, love should always be the driving force behind the decisions we make. Whether it’s choosing to spend time together or making long-term plans, love should guide our actions. We are called to love one another sacrificially, showing kindness, patience, and understanding throughout the decision-making process. When love is at the forefront, our decisions will reflect the unity and respect we have for one another, leading to a happier and healthier marriage.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
1 John 4:19
“We love because he first loved us.” – 1 John 4:19
Romans 13:10
“Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.” – Romans 13:10
Colossians 3:14
“And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” – Colossians 3:14
Song of Solomon 8:6
“Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.” – Song of Solomon 8:6
Trusting Each Other in Decisions
Trust is the foundation of our marriage, playing a crucial role in decision-making. When we trust each other, we can lean on one another in times of uncertainty. It’s vital to believe that our spouse has our best interests at heart and that they will support our journey together. Trust helps us to communicate effectively and share our fears and dreams openly. As we strengthen our trust, we can make decisions confidently, knowing we are pursuing a common goal for our marriage and family.
Proverbs 31:11
“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” – Proverbs 31:11
Proverbs 3:26
“For the Lord will be at your side and will keep your foot from being snared.” – Proverbs 3:26
Psalms 37:23
“The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him.” – Psalms 37:23
Hebrews 13:5
“Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.'” – Hebrews 13:5
Proverbs 12:15
“The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.” – Proverbs 12:15
Final Thoughts
Decision-making in marriage is significant to nurturing a strong bond with our partner. As we communicate openly, seek God’s guidance, and prioritize trust, we create a supportive environment for one another. Forgiveness allows us to move forward when mistakes are made, while love remains our guiding light. By staying united as a team, we reinforce our commitment to each other and honor our marriage vows. Together, let’s commit to making decisions that reflect our dedication and trust in each other.
I encourage everyone to explore how we can keep God at the center of our marriage. In doing so, we pave the way for sound decisions and deeper love. For those interested in the topic of leaving home for marriage, consider looking into those teachings with an open heart as well.
May we all continue to grow together as couples, learning to listen, forgive, and love, which ultimately leads to fulfilling and faithful marriages.