“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6
Seeking God’s Guidance
We all want to ensure that we are making the right choices in our lives, especially when it comes to relationships. Seeking guidance from God is of utmost importance. We understand that by turning to God in prayer and asking for His insight, we open ourselves to the wisdom He has to offer. Trusting Him with our hearts allows us to be sensitive to His leading. When we seek His will, we can discern if a person is the one for us. Clarity comes from knowing we are aligned with God’s plans for our lives.
Proverbs 3:5-6
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6
James 1:5
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” – James 1:5
Psalms 37:4
“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalms 37:4
Isaiah 30:21
“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’” – Isaiah 30:21
Proverbs 16:3
“Commit your activities to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” – Proverbs 16:3
Recognizing God’s Signs
In our hearts, we often long for confirmation when it comes to love. We may want tangible signs from God to show us if someone is right for us. This belief is supported by scripture where God often provides signs and direction to guide His people. We need to be attentive to His whispers in our hearts. Sometimes, it’s the peace we feel, or the joy that blossoms within us when we are with the person in question. Recognizing God’s signs is about being observant to how we feel and listening to the advice of those around us who seek our good.
Judges 6:17
“Gideon replied, ‘If now I have found favor in your eyes, give me a sign that it is really you talking to me.’” – Judges 6:17
Exodus 3:12
“And God said, ‘I will be with you. And this will be the sign to you that it is I who have sent you: When you have brought the people out of Egypt, you will worship God on this mountain.’” – Exodus 3:12
1 Samuel 10:7
“Once these signs are fulfilled, do whatever your hand finds to do, for God is with you.” – 1 Samuel 10:7
John 20:29
“Then Jesus told him, ‘Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.’” – John 20:29
Psalms 119:105
“Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” – Psalms 119:105
Knowing His Character
Understanding whether he is the one goes beyond external attraction. As we seek God’s purpose for our relationships, we are also called to consider the character of the person we are interested in. God desires for us to be with those who reflect His values and exhibit kindness, respect, and love. It is important to observe how they treat others and align those actions with what the scripture says about love. A strong character is often the best indicator of whether a relationship is in God’s plan for us.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Galatians 5:22-23
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” – Galatians 5:22-23
Ephesians 4:2
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” – Ephesians 4:2
Colossians 3:12
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” – Colossians 3:12
Romans 12:10
“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” – Romans 12:10
Communicating Openly
Communication plays a key role in determining if this person is indeed the one for us. We must be willing to discuss our feelings, expectations, and even fears. Open conversations allow us to understand each other better and to discover if our goals align. Just as God communicates with us through His Word, we too should communicate transparently with our partner. This not only strengthens our bond but also contributes significantly to finding out if they are God’s choice for us.
Proverbs 18:13
“To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.” – Proverbs 18:13
James 1:19
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19
Ephesians 4:29
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29
Colossians 4:6
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” – Colossians 4:6
Proverbs 15:1
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1
Building a Strong Foundation
A relationship founded on love and respect is vital for discovering if he is the one. We need to prioritize building a strong foundation, grounded in faith, friendship, and mutual respect. Just as Jesus is our cornerstone, our relationships should also be built upon the solid rock of His principles. Quality time spent together in pursuits that honor God can nurture our understanding and strengthen our bond. Together, we can construct a relationship that can withstand life’s storms.
Matthew 7:24-25
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” – Matthew 7:24-25
1 Peter 4:8
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” – 1 Peter 4:8
Philippians 1:9-10
“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best.” – Philippians 1:9-10
Colossians 2:7
“Rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.” – Colossians 2:7
1 Corinthians 3:11
“For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.” – 1 Corinthians 3:11
Embracing Patience
Being patient in our relationships is crucial to finding out if he is indeed the one. So often, we can become anxious about the future, worrying about whether the relationship will go where we hope it will. God calls us to wait patiently, trusting His perfect timing. In this waiting, we learn to grow, reflect, and nurture our relationship with one another and with Him. Patience is not simply sitting back; it is trusting our hearts to God’s care as we seek His will.
Psalm 27:14
“Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” – Psalm 27:14
Romans 8:25
“But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.” – Romans 8:25
Isaiah 40:31
“But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:31
Galatians 6:9
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9
Proverbs 19:2
“Desire without knowledge is not good—how much more will hasty feet miss the way!” – Proverbs 19:2
Final Thoughts
As we seek to know if he is the one, we discover the importance of seeking God for guidance, recognizing His signs, and understanding character traits that align with divine love. Open communication builds trust, while a strong foundation centered on faith can nurture our relationship. Patience is vital as we wait on God’s timing, knowing that He has plans to bless us and lead our hearts to the right person. Our prayer is that we remain faithful in love and open to His direction.
To further explore how God can influence our relationships, check out Bible verses about God’s timing in relationships or read about how God puts the right people in our lives. These topics can guide us in our pursuit of knowing if he is the one.
Bible verses about God’s timing in relationships
God putting the right people in your life